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When I told myself these 3 truths my relationship with my exes transformed

When I was finally able to say these 3 smack-you-in-the-face truths to myself, my relationship with my exes transformed. Like magic.*

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When I started working with Marisa, I was contemplating becoming a single mom after 14 years of marriage. She provided a save space for me to explore this possibility, helping me move through my fears and guilt, and get really honest with myself. Her guidance made me feel secure during the most uncertain time in my life. Thanks to her wisdom  and unwavering support, I found the courage to step into a new chapter with my husband. He now sees more of who I truly am and for the first time, I'm actually allowing his love in. 

ERICA
mom to a 7-yr-old 

 

Becoming a bonus mom was one of the best parts about marrying my husband. But since our wedding, our family dynamics have changed and it has impacted my role as bonus mom and partner. Marisa Belger Coaching has given me the tools to be a stronger mom to our two little ones as well as a better bonus mom and partner. Marisa allows me to lead with love without compromising my needs. Parenting is a beautiful mess and bonus parenting is a beautiful, sometimes bigger mess. Everyone needs a Marisa to help them navigate this journey. 

TESS
mom to a 2-yr-old + 4-yr-old

 

Marisa has been an incredibly wise and truly empathic support through the ups and downs of my co-parenting journey.  She offers a unique perspective that comes from her own co-parenting experience plus a deep understanding of what I specifically need to feel clear and empowered. Ultimately working with Marisa has helped me feel stronger and more secure to endure the challenges I face in parenting with my ex. I’m always left feeling more confident and whole — more available for my kids and more like myself.

HENRI
mom to a 8-yr-old + 10-yr-old

recommitted to her
marriage after
nearly divorcing

bonus mom to
a 15-yr-old

co-parenting with a
challenging ex​

You want a loving and balanced relationship with the father of your children.

But like many women today, you feel distant, misunderstood, and in a constant state of frustration or conflict. 

​

More women than ever are are giving up on feeling supported, connected, and joyful in their marriage or co-parenting dynamic. Are you one of the many mothers who is: 

  • Stuck in relationship limbo, afraid to leave your unhappy marriage, but unable to do the deep reflective work required to see if the relationship can be saved?
  • Divorced, but still full of blame, resentment, and despair?
  • Settling for bitter, angry co-parenting that leaves you depleted, ashamed, and less available for your kids?
  • Feeling jealous, resentful, or suspicious of your ex's new partner and her role in your kids' lives? ​

Hi, I'm Marisa Belger
and I get it. 

I know firsthand what it feels like to feel lonely in a partnership.

I know what it’s like to lose the dream of a happy marriage

and be shattered into a

million tiny pieces.

I know what it’s like to place your kids in the hands of a co-parent who feels like a stranger. I know all this because I did it. Twice. 


Today, I happily co-parent my two kids with their dads, their partners, and my fiancé. My kids have six parents (and 16 grandparents, but that’s another story!) We travel together, celebrate together, and navigate the complexities of raising kids together. We get frustrated with each other, argue, and repair. And then do it again. We genuinely enjoy and respect each other. It's family, but way better because we created it and we choose it every day. 

Creating this new kind of family from the ashes of heartache and despair is what I'm most proud of in my life. I worked hard to get here and I now have the formula for transforming romantic relationships from disconnection and conflict to harmony and ease. Hint: You are the answer. When you are in right relationship with yourself all of your relationships will transform. I'm here to help you get to that place.

When I told myself these 3 truths my relationship with my exes transformed

When I was finally able to say these 3 smack-you-in-the-face truths to myself, my relationship with my exes transformed. Like magic.*

CHECK OUT THE BLOG

When I started working with Marisa, I was contemplating becoming a single mom after 14 years of marriage. She provided a save space for me to explore this possibility, helping me move through my fears and guilt, and get really honest with myself. Her guidance made me feel secure during the most uncertain time in my life. Thanks to her wisdom  and unwavering support, I found the courage to step into a new chapter with my husband. He now sees more of who I truly am and for the first time, I'm actually allowing his love in. 

ERICA
mom to a 7-yr-old 

 

recommitted to her
marriage after
nearly divorcing

Becoming a bonus mom was one of the best parts about marrying my husband. But since our wedding, our family dynamics have changed and it has impacted my role as bonus mom and partner. Marisa Belger Coaching has given me the tools to be a stronger mom to our two little ones as well as a better bonus mom and partner. Marisa allows me to lead with love without compromising my needs. Parenting is a beautiful mess and bonus parenting is a beautiful, sometimes bigger mess. Everyone needs a Marisa to help them navigate this journey. 

TESS
mom to a 2-yr-old + 4-yr-old

 

bonus mom to
a 15-yr-old

Marisa has been an incredibly wise and truly empathic support through the ups and downs of my co-parenting journey.  She offers a unique perspective that comes from her own co-parenting experience plus a deep understanding of what I specifically need to feel clear and empowered. Ultimately working with Marisa has helped me feel stronger and more secure to endure the challenges I face in parenting with my ex. I’m always left feeling more confident and whole — more available for my kids and more like myself.

HENRI
mom to a 8-yr-old + 10-yr-old

co-parenting with a
challenging ex​

You want a loving and balanced relationship with the father of your children.

But like many women today, you feel distant, misunderstood, and in a constant state of frustration or conflict. 

​

More women than ever are are giving up on feeling supported, connected, and joyful in their marriage or co-parenting dynamic. Are you one of the many mothers who is: 

  • Stuck in relationship limbo, afraid to leave your unhappy marriage, but unable to do the deep reflective work required to see if the relationship can be saved?
  • Divorced, but still full of blame, resentment, and despair?
  • Settling for bitter, angry co-parenting that leaves you depleted, ashamed, and less available for your kids?
  • Feeling jealous, resentful, or suspicious of your ex's new partner and her role in your kids' lives? ​

Hi, I'm Marisa Belger
and I get it. 

I know firsthand what it feels like to feel lonely in a partnership.

I know what it’s like to lose the dream of a happy marriage

and be shattered into a

million tiny pieces.

I know what it’s like to place your kids in the hands of a co-parent who feels like a stranger. I know all this because I did it. Twice. 


Today, I happily co-parent my two kids with their dads, their partners, and my fiancé. My kids have six parents (and 16 grandparents, but that’s another story!) We travel together, celebrate together, and navigate the complexities of raising kids together. We get frustrated with each other, argue, and repair. And then do it again. We genuinely enjoy and respect each other. It's family, but way better because we created it and we choose it every day. 

Creating this new kind of family from the ashes of heartache and despair is what I'm most proud of in my life. I worked hard to get here and I now have the formula for transforming romantic relationships from disconnection and conflict to harmony and ease. Hint: You are the answer. When you are in right relationship with yourself all of your relationships will transform. I'm here to help you get to that place.

I support mothers through every stage of a changing partnership, from questioning to
co-parenting. 

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Co-Parenting Bliss: My #2 Secret to Peaceful Co-Parenting with Two Exes

At holidays and on vacations we move in a pack, the kids weaving between us, descending on a destination in a complex configuration that leaves people guessing. The answer? We put in the work. 

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Morgan Cook

photographer 
mom of 2
ohio 

I was feeling a shift in my marriage that I couldn’t have ever predicted nor did I want to be true. But it was there - a disconnect of the heart that had become so strong that it could no longer be ignored. In bringing this to Marisa, I was met with her centered, gentle wisdom and guidance which led me to my own experience of vulnerability, courage and eventually reconnection with my husband. 

Marlena Ortiz

founder 
Gold Dust Womxn Festival
new york city 

Having the kind-hearted Marisa facilitate her Modern Mother Workshop was such an impactful part of our Gold Dust Womxn’s festival. Our goal was to have an offering for mothers, but we didn’t want those without children to be left out. Her workshop provided a space for all kinds of birthing: whether it's a child, a project, or an aspect of personal growth. The guests left singing her praises, feeling held, heard, and empowered. We look forward to having Marisa facilitate another workshop! 

Sierra Sandor

realtor 
new mom
san francisco 

Working with Marisa is like meeting yourself for the first time. You really see things more clearly. If anyone is on the fence, give it a shot because it’s literally like opening your eyes for the first time. 
 

About Marisa

Marisa Belger helps mothers in painful relationship dynamics hurt less and grow strong so they can create a thriving life for themselves and their kids. She earned 10,000 hours of expertise on the ground, through 14+ years of raising her two kids with their dads, their partners, and her fiancé. She sits at the center of this thriving family system that continually prioritizes connection, support, and joy.

Before her work as a coach and mentor, Marisa spent 25 years writing articles and books supporting women through the rite of passage that is motherhood. She is co-author The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother, the bestselling guide to women-centric care in the early weeks after birth as well as Awakening Fertility and Nine Golden Months. Her work has also appeared in Mother.ly, TheTODAYShow.com, and The Purist Magazine. 

As a certified life coach and women's workshop facilitator, Marisa teaches women how to hear their own voice in the turmoil of an unhappy marriage, divorce, difficult co-parenting, or the complexities of being a stepmother. She has helped countless women to find clarity and peace in their family lives.

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